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Keep People in Their Lane & Out of Your Business!

Thomas from the Big Apple (shout out to the Bronx) emailed me this question which I thought was a topic many can relate to. We all deal with people that have an issue with being in "your lane" uninvited. It can be wildly intrusive when that happens.

Let's be honest. Dealing with people who meddle in your affairs can be beyond frustrating. If you want them to mind their own business and focus on their own lives, here are a few suggestions you can try minus having to "take it there" and in a manner where you do not have to tax your energy.

Some things to consider:

1. Communicate your boundaries: Clearly and assertively express your boundaries to those individuals. Let them know that you value your privacy and prefer to handle your own matters. Be respectful but firm in your communication.

2. Redirect the conversation: Whenever someone starts prying into your personal life or offering unsolicited advice, steer the conversation in a different direction. Shift the focus to a neutral topic or ask them about their own interests or experiences. This sends a subtle message that you're not interested in discussing your personal matters.

3. Be consistent and confident: Consistency is key when setting boundaries. Stick to your decisions and avoid wavering or giving mixed signals. Show confidence in your choices and project an image of someone who is in control of their own life.

4. Lead by example: Show others that you respect their privacy and personal space by practicing what you preach. Avoid prying into their lives or gossiping about others. By demonstrating your own respect for boundaries, you encourage others to do the same.

5. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals: Spend time with people who share your values and understand the importance of personal boundaries. Surrounding yourself with supportive friends and family members who respect your privacy can create a positive environment that discourages nosiness.

6. Politely decline invitations or requests for involvement: If someone asks you to get involved in their personal matters or expects you to divulge sensitive information, kindly decline. Let them know that you prefer not to get involved or that you feel uncomfortable sharing certain details. Stick to your decision, even if they persist.

7. Seek support if necessary: If someone continues to invade your privacy despite your efforts, consider seeking support from a trusted friend, family member, or professional. They can provide guidance and help you navigate the situation more effectively.

On another note, having self-awareness is always key as well. The right person, at the right time, jumping into your lane may not end well. Not because they had it coming but because your mood (or energy) was not where it needed to be to deal with them so that will be a factor.

Keep in mind that each person is different, and it may take time for some individuals to understand and respect your boundaries. Stay patient and persistent, and eventually, most people will get the message and learn to mind their own business.

Now in the event that they do not seem to "get it" then there is always the option to"take it there" if that is what the moment calls for. I am of the opinion that they will get it then, just saying.

Do you have a question or topic that you would like me to blog about? Send it over to me via email at: and we will see what we can do.

Be well,

Coach Kenn

CEO & Founder, Advanced Perspectives, LLC



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