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I Am Ready for My Person So Why Can't I Find Him?

This is another question that has come up during sessions. While there is no real answer that will help the person asking to be okay in most cases, I would like to offer a few thoughts.

Okay people, (noticed I did not say ladies) If you have wondered "Are there any good men left in the world" then today is your day!

The answer is emphatically, YES, there are definitely good men in the world. It's important to remember that individuals vary greatly, and not everyone may meet your expectations or desires when it comes to a romantic partner. However, it's also worth considering that finding a compatible partner takes time and effort, and it's not uncommon for people to go through periods of feeling like they can't find the right person.

This is where I need to step lightly so I don't go on a rant about why people (yes, you) are allowing your belief system and relationship choices to be dictated by social media or whatever the platform of the day might be. Nope, I will not go there so I digress.

Here are a few possible reasons why you might feel like you're having difficulty finding a good man:

1. Limited exposure: If you're primarily meeting potential partners through a limited social circle or specific environments, you might not have encountered the right person yet. Expanding your social network, trying new activities, or exploring different communities can increase your chances of meeting someone compatible.

2. Unrealistic expectations: It's essential to have standards and boundaries, but having excessively rigid or unrealistic expectations can make it challenging to find a suitable partner. Reflect on your expectations and ensure they are reasonable and aligned with the qualities that truly matter to you.

3. Timing, location and luck: Sometimes, finding a compatible partner comes down to timing, location, and luck. It can take time to meet someone who is both compatible with your values and seeking a similar type of relationship. Patience is crucial in the search for a meaningful connection.

4. Personal growth: Sometimes, personal growth and self-improvement can positively impact your ability to attract and recognize a good partner. Focus on your own development, engage in activities you enjoy, and pursue your passions. This can enhance your overall happiness and make you more appealing to potential partners.

As a Coach, I know that everyone's journey is unique, so finding a compatible partner may require some patience and self-reflection. It can also be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or even a coach (wink-wink) who can provide guidance and perspective on your specific situation.

I want to meet someone now Coach! Is that a problem?

Oh, it is absolutely not a problem! Matter of fact, it's actually understandable that you may feel eager to meet someone special and have a meaningful connection. However, it's important to approach the search for a partner with a balanced perspective. While it's natural to desire companionship, it's also essential to give yourself time and space to find the right person.

Rushing into a relationship or putting excessive pressure on yourself to find someone quickly can potentially lead to unsatisfactory outcomes. It's important to focus on finding a compatible partner rather than just any partner. Building a healthy and fulfilling relationship takes time, and it's essential to allow the process to unfold naturally.

Here are five things to consider:

  1. Self-Consciousness: What do you want from a relationship?

  2. Self-Awareness: What do you need?

  3. Self-Honesty: Are you stable in the needed aspects of your as you are solo?

  4. Self-Healing: What issues have you not dealt with from days, weeks, or years passed?

  5. Self-Transperency: Ask yourself why did my past relationships fail.

Take your time as you ponder those points and be open to peeling back a few layers to get to the truth. This will help you to "be ready" when you meet your person and not find yourself having to "get ready" by then cleaning up your life.

In the meantime, you can take proactive steps to increase your chances of meeting someone compatible. Engage in activities and hobbies that genuinely interest you, join social groups or communities that align with your values, and consider trying online dating platforms that can expand your reach and introduce you to new people.

Remember, it's crucial to take care of yourself, enjoy your own company, and be open to new experiences. When you focus on personal growth and happiness, you become more attractive to potential partners, and you increase your chances of meeting someone who is truly compatible with you.

Be well,

I Am Coach Kenn!


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